Sunday Kind of Love- Bonnie
"All I am, I owe to my mother."- George Washington
Happy Sunday! The gusts of wind speak true to today's SKOL segment. In some way, I've always had this understanding with the wind. It's as though it speaks to me at times, in a non-schizophrenic sort of way of course, divulging all the answers to life's mysteries. Today I am doing something different with my SKOL.
As I've said so in the beginning, love is all things; one thing I want to showcase is love outside of being a couple or in a relationship. Not everyone meets or falls in love with their "soul mate" or "best friend," but, everyone does love and is loved, to some degree. The wonder and joy of love, is that it exists, even in the worst of times. And no matter how love has found its way inside your heart, having it, regardless of how you express it, is worth every pain.
I'm lucky to have a mother, for one. And I am so lucky that she let me interview her for my SKOL segment today. Today's story is from the eyes of a woman and mother who has truly overcome. It is, as I'll call it, A Mother's Story, of the greatest love she found, in her children. Enjoy!
Bonnie
"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new."- Rajneesh
She grew up in a small Texas town, where having children before you were married, especially for Hispanic women, was taboo, a "no, no," something looked down upon as if you were dirty. Yet when Bonnie became pregnant with her first child, marriage was the last thing on her mind.
"I kept it to myself and didn't tell my parents I was pregnant until I was five months pregnant," said Bonnie. "It wasn't something that you were proud of but it wasn't something that "oh my god, my life is over," either. I knew this was the moment I had to be an adult and become a parent."
When Kevin was born on October 18, 1984, Bonnie's life changed more than she could have ever imagined. She had been living unhappily and it wasn't until Kevin's birth, that her unhappiness changed to instant love, she had never once felt before.
"I knew that I could have someone who would never hurt me or leave me. My love for him was the strongest love I had for anyone at that time and he saved me. He saved me emotionally," said Bonnie.
In April of 1986, she gave birth to her second child, a girl she named Kimberly and with that she had two children to care for. Being a single mother wasn't easy, yet with the support of her parents and their belief that she could handle anything, Bonnie dedicated her time to being the best mother she could be.
"I didn't think I could love as strongly again after Kevin, but it is such an amazing gift, how mothers can split their love equally, for all their children," said Bonnie. "They were both my salvation and I was happy."
A few years later, she married and decided to have one last child, another girl she would call Sydney, and life as she knew it changed forever. After Sydney's birth, Bonnie gained a new fond belief for life and for love. It was a completion, a cherished circle that she held tightly too, and one in which Sydney's birth, made whole.
"After Sydney, it made me believe that a mother's love is the strongest it will ever be, for anyone," said Bonnie.
Although she admits to never having been in love, but being close to it, Bonnie maintains a certain strength, attitude and character, that seems to defy all odds and things against her. Her strength exudes through simple conversation with her, yet it's an attribute that is admirable, one that many, never come to understand.
"I never allowed myself to feel that because of things that happened in the past," said Bonnie. "I don't think I allow myself to love anybody in a romantic way, because I am stingy and my love for my children, has and is, most important."
Yet no matter what her relationship status is, Bonnie only lives for today, in the present moments she is always grateful to have. Her love for her children is obvious and it's the kind of love that every child should never go without. Even as they have grown up throughout the years, Bonnie knows that she never has to question her children's love for her as well. They have changed her life, and she theirs.
"I am thankful to have a strong love for God and I thank him for giving me the patience to keep on going and to always believe that my children love me wholeheartedly," said Bonnie. "Love is just my motherly love, just for my family."
For Bonnie, being a parent is the greatest blessing in her life. She credits her faith and her love for her children, as reasons for never giving up and knows that the love a parent has for their child, will always be an indescribable feeling.
"I think that a parent's love for their children is so strong, that it can truly take your breath away," said Bonnie. "If something goes wrong, if it's that bad, that love you have for them, takes it away."
"Being a mother has taught me true patience," said Bonnie. "This is what I've lived all my life for and I don't regret it at all. It's saved me. It's taught me how to be, I'm hoping, a good mom."
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother."- Abraham Lincoln
As I've said so in the beginning, love is all things; one thing I want to showcase is love outside of being a couple or in a relationship. Not everyone meets or falls in love with their "soul mate" or "best friend," but, everyone does love and is loved, to some degree. The wonder and joy of love, is that it exists, even in the worst of times. And no matter how love has found its way inside your heart, having it, regardless of how you express it, is worth every pain.
I'm lucky to have a mother, for one. And I am so lucky that she let me interview her for my SKOL segment today. Today's story is from the eyes of a woman and mother who has truly overcome. It is, as I'll call it, A Mother's Story, of the greatest love she found, in her children. Enjoy!
Bonnie
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| Bonnie and her three children, Kevin, Kimberly and Sydney |
She grew up in a small Texas town, where having children before you were married, especially for Hispanic women, was taboo, a "no, no," something looked down upon as if you were dirty. Yet when Bonnie became pregnant with her first child, marriage was the last thing on her mind.
"I kept it to myself and didn't tell my parents I was pregnant until I was five months pregnant," said Bonnie. "It wasn't something that you were proud of but it wasn't something that "oh my god, my life is over," either. I knew this was the moment I had to be an adult and become a parent."
When Kevin was born on October 18, 1984, Bonnie's life changed more than she could have ever imagined. She had been living unhappily and it wasn't until Kevin's birth, that her unhappiness changed to instant love, she had never once felt before.
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| Her Kevin |
In April of 1986, she gave birth to her second child, a girl she named Kimberly and with that she had two children to care for. Being a single mother wasn't easy, yet with the support of her parents and their belief that she could handle anything, Bonnie dedicated her time to being the best mother she could be.
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| Her Kim |
A few years later, she married and decided to have one last child, another girl she would call Sydney, and life as she knew it changed forever. After Sydney's birth, Bonnie gained a new fond belief for life and for love. It was a completion, a cherished circle that she held tightly too, and one in which Sydney's birth, made whole.
"After Sydney, it made me believe that a mother's love is the strongest it will ever be, for anyone," said Bonnie.
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| Her Syd |
"I never allowed myself to feel that because of things that happened in the past," said Bonnie. "I don't think I allow myself to love anybody in a romantic way, because I am stingy and my love for my children, has and is, most important."
Yet no matter what her relationship status is, Bonnie only lives for today, in the present moments she is always grateful to have. Her love for her children is obvious and it's the kind of love that every child should never go without. Even as they have grown up throughout the years, Bonnie knows that she never has to question her children's love for her as well. They have changed her life, and she theirs.
"I am thankful to have a strong love for God and I thank him for giving me the patience to keep on going and to always believe that my children love me wholeheartedly," said Bonnie. "Love is just my motherly love, just for my family."
For Bonnie, being a parent is the greatest blessing in her life. She credits her faith and her love for her children, as reasons for never giving up and knows that the love a parent has for their child, will always be an indescribable feeling.
"I think that a parent's love for their children is so strong, that it can truly take your breath away," said Bonnie. "If something goes wrong, if it's that bad, that love you have for them, takes it away."
"Being a mother has taught me true patience," said Bonnie. "This is what I've lived all my life for and I don't regret it at all. It's saved me. It's taught me how to be, I'm hoping, a good mom."
<3- My mother has taught me so much about love. She still does. And yet, hearing her words about her love for my siblings and me, is something I will never forget. When I grow up someday and have children, I hope to be near as great a mother, as she. Thank you mom, for being so brave!-KT
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| A Mother's Love |
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